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By: Chris Patrick
Approach anxiety is the only thing keeping most men from love, unwavering confidence, and true happiness. Unless you start overcoming your approach anxiety, you could be lonely for a long time to come.
I was the same way when I first started approaching women. Sometimes even the thought of approaching a beautiful woman would make me nervous. My friends and I always struggled to approach the women that we found attractive. We watched other guys approach women, but we could not muster up the courage to approach women ourselves.
I had a lot of approach anxiety about walking over and talking to a woman I didn’t know, because I was unsure of what to say and how to get her interested in me right away.
Sure, you can learn some great conversation starters, but then what will you do? What do you say next…, and what if she rejects you in front of everyone? How will your friends react? Will this ruin your night?
I never enjoyed approaching women because of all of the approach anxiety that I would feel. It was like I was watching my life from the outside, but I had no control over what happened.
I saw beautiful women everywhere in my town. I really wanted to meet even one of these women; but every time I tried to approach a woman, my approach anxiety would kick in.
Finally, I realized that my approach anxiety was not only keeping me from meeting a girlfriend, it was having an adverse affect on my social life. My approach anxiety with women was turning into fear of any kind of social rejection.
At times, I felt like everyone was watching me. What I eventually realized is that nobody actually cares about you, me or the next guy. People don’t usually pay attention to what others are doing, because the majority of the time people are caught up thinking about themselves!
Here’s the truth:
When you walk over to a woman and start talking, people will usually assume that you know her, or she is your girlfriend. Other men will envy you. They will wish that they had your skill.
Understanding this one insight can be powerful and liberating, but it will not cure your approach anxiety for good. So how do you cure it for good? Should you just start trying to pick up girls? Will that allow you to find your true, confident self?
The answer is: No. Learning how to approach women is only one part of overcoming approach anxiety. You also need to learn how to:
1) Have real confidence in yourself
2) Have the confidence to engage a woman in an ongoing and interesting conversation
3) Create sexual anticipation with a woman right away
4) Easily move things to phone number, kissing, dates and sex
Without those things, you will never experience true success with women. Most of your approaches won’t go well, which will only make it harder to overcome your approach anxiety.
